I love baseball and wanted to be a sports journalist coming
out of college 35 years ago. But after applying to every newspaper and magazine in New York
City and not even getting a job interview, I moved on.
I landed a job with a book publisher, fell in love
with books, and remained in the book publicity industry for over the past three decades.
I will likely die clutching a book in one hand, a pen in the other.
But what I really would have loved to do is market
x-rated movies and promote porn stars. My life would have been very different
if I had pursued that industry, and not for the better.
I likely would not have gotten married or had
kids. I likely would worked long hours, including
nights and weekends. With the hard partying that I assume to be associated with
it, I could have developed an addiction or lived a reckless life.
Still, the allure of being around some of the best
bodies and most gorgeous people, while I watch them from just a few feet away
do things that most of us fantasize about, was always a huge allure.
The variety of people, positions, settings, and
locations in the world of adult film is tantalizing. I imagine it would be like being at an
amusement park with a pass to unlimited rides.
Humans are animals, especially men. We eat, crap,
and screw. Repeat and rinse. That’s who we are. Admit it. I have.
Sure, many men live great lives, are successful or
do interesting things, from helping others and serving society, to pursuing
intellectual curiosities and making lots of money, and sure, many guys are
great husbands, dads, and humanitarians. Still, as a baseline, most heterosexual men just
obsess over sex and beautiful women. It must be in our DNA.
So, why didn’t I combine my skills and passions, and
promote people who have sex for a living?
I chose books — or they chose me — because they
speak deeply to my interests, morals, and needs. Usually one dislikes or is
disillusioned by the industry they work in, but I have not fallen from my
obsession with books. If I worked in the industry of mechanical sex between
strangers, who took what could be an act of love and romance and turned it into
just another job, perhaps I would have denied myself so much more that women
and life can offer.
I don’t regret the career choices that I have
made, but I do wonder what it would have been like to be a part of an industry
that seems so mysterious and otherworldly to me on one hand, and so obviously
dehumanizing and unhealthy on the other.
Perhaps, like most scenes filmed by the adult
industry, it is best to fantasize about than to participate in. I will remain a happy
and proud book promoter, a faithful husband who is content only contemplating the what-if.
The possibility of working in the world
of xxx films still teases me in a way that fuels a fire that may never be
extinguished, but I don’t regret the choices I have made.
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including 21 years as the head of marketing for the nation’s largest book
publicity firm, and director of publicity positions at two independent presses,
Brian has worked with many first-time, self-published, authors of all genres,
right along with best-selling authors and celebrities such as: Dr. Ruth, Mark
Victor Hansen, Joseph Finder, Katherine Spurway, Neil Rackham, Harvey Mackay,
Ken Blanchard, Stephen Covey, Warren Adler, Cindy Adams, Todd Duncan, Susan
RoAne, John C. Maxwell, Jeff Foxworthy, Seth Godin, and Henry Winkler. He
hosted a panel on book publicity for Book Expo America several years ago, and
has spoken at ASJA, Independent Book Publishers Association Sarah Lawrence
College, Nonfiction Writers Association, Cape Cod Writers Association,
Willamette (Portland) Writers Association, APEX, Morgan James Publishing, and
Connecticut Authors and Publishers Association. His letters-to-the-editor have
been published in The Wall Street Journal, USA Today, New York Post, NY
Daily News, Newsday, The Journal News (Westchester) and The Washington
Post. His first published book was The Florida Homeowner, Condo, &
Co-Op Association Handbook. It was featured
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